HTML tutorials for Niteflirt and other stuff

The last thing we did in the last post was to download all the files on your server to your computer. What we have done is backed up your files, so in this folder what you have is an exact duplicate of what is online. This makes it really easy to upload, download, and restore files.

In order to install WordPress using Dreamhost’s one-click installer, you will need to delete the files on your server. In the lower right-hand frame, click the top file, hold down the shift key, and click the bottom file. All four files should be selected.

Right click and select Delete. Acknowledge the little popup, because you do want to delete these files.

Now log into your Dreamhost panel. In the tan box in the upper left-hand side of the page, click “One-click installs”.

Select the middle option, “Install new website software – Advanced mode”. When the list opens, you will see WordPress already selected at the top. Scroll down to “install to” and select your domain. Leave the input on the right blank to install the blog to your homepage. Then click the “install it for me now!” button. It should be installed within 10 minutes.

If you are hosting elsewhere, you will have to look up their WordPress installation procedures. If they do not have an easy installation procedure, you picked the wrong host.

When WordPress is installed on your domain, Filezilla will show this where no files were moments ago.

Type in your domain, and you will come to a welcome screen. Type in your site title, username, password, and email address. Pick a password that isn’t a word. Make absolutely sure you get your email address correct, or your blog won’t be able to send you notices about important stuff. Leave the “Allow my site to appear in search engines like Google and Technorati” box ticked. Then click “install wordpress”.

You will be asked to log in immediately. Hopefully you kept your password and username handy.

After logging in, the page you will land on is the dashboard.

We have a number of things to do. First, you will see a button with a number in it next to the word “Updates” at the top. It is very important to do your updates promptly. Click that to go to the updates page.

If you have plugins that need to be updated, click the box next them and update. Then click the Select All next to the themes that need to be updated and update them. They probably all updated correctly. If a theme did not update properly, make a note of it and don’t use that one. On Dreamhost you have plenty of themes to choose from to get started.

Now, at the bottom of the left sidebar, click the down arrow to open Settings. Click General.

You want to change the tagline to something that goes with your blog. “Just another WordPress Blog” is not it. Pick your timezone. For everything else on that page, the default will be alright for now. You can go back and change anything later.

Now let’s go down to Permalinks. Pick the Day-and-Name option. This format is friendlier for search engines and people than the default. Click Save Changes.

Now click Users. There you are. Click Edit. Choose the blue admin color scheme to see how you like it. Fill in any personal info or contact info you want to. Then click Save Changes. You will see that the color scheme to your admin area has changed. If you prefer the pale gray, you can just change it back.

Now click Plugins. There are some plugins already installed which you can activate if you wish. I recommend activating WordPress Hashcash first. Just click Activate and you are done on that.

You also need to activate Akismet, but before you do that you will need to sign up for an account at WordPress.com to get an API code. Go do that, then when you click the activate button, you will have to enter the API code to activate Akismet.

There are a couple of others I want you to install, but that will have to be another lesson, after you are more comfortable with a few things and have made a post or two.

Now click the name of your blog in the upper left-hand corner of the dashboard, which will take you to your website.

You see your title at the top on the left of your header image and your tagline on the right.

Below you see Home and About. Click About. What you see is standard WordPress sample text for a blog. You will have to change that. You could do it now, as there is probably an Edit button. But let’s finish our tour of your site first. Either click the Home link or hit the Back button on your browser to go back to your homepage.

Go down and you will see a post dated today. This will need to be edited or deleted. Beneath it you will see there is one comment, by Mr. WordPress. This also will need to be edited or deleted.

If you look in the right-hand sidebar, you will see some links. Any links you do not want can be deleted, and you can add your own in your admin area.

Let’s edit the page, the post, and the comment.

Go back to your admin area, and click the Posts link in the left-hand sidebar. There should be only one post. Mouse over the title and click the edit link. Change the title to something more appropriate, like, “So glad to be here”. Then delete the text and type something welcoming readers to your new blog. Update the post with the button on the upper right-hand side.

Click Comments. Mouse over to see the menu of choices. I am going to edit it, so I will click Edit. Follow to see what I am doing.

You can edit any part of a comment. You will often find vague comments that are spam masquerading as comments, things like “This is good, I bookmarked it.” Stuff that is not clearly written in response to a post should be deleted. Sometimes a good comment has a spammy return link. You can delete the URL so you aren’t sending traffic to some site. And you can edit the text of the comment to fix spelling and grammar errors, etc. You can look to see what I did.

Now let’s edit the About page.

Click Pages in the left sidebar, then click to edit your page. Update when you are done. You could also click the Add Page button on the Pages page. Let’s do that. After you click the button, you will come to blank entry page. Type Photos as the title, then below you can temporarily put “I will very soon put some photos here for you to look at.” Or say something about payment mail buttons.

Now let’s check out your links. Click Links. Your links page may have a long list of links that doesn’t show up in your sidebar. You can delete them all by checking the boxes and selecting Bulk actions => Delete. If you want to add links then, first click Link Categories. Blogroll is the only one there by default. To add a category, Click the Add new, then on the Add Link Category page, name your link category. I’m adding a category called Websites. The slug will be your category name, all lower case with hyphens between it. So the slug for Websites is websites. The slug for My Web Empire would be my-web-empire. If it’s complicated, you could put a description, but most themes do not display this.

Let’s add a link now. Click Links in the left sidebar, then the Add New button. On the Add New Links page, I’m going to add my website. The title will be ‘Help4flirts’, the web address will be ‘http://help4flirts.com’, and the description I am putting in will be ‘Web tutorials’. I’m going to select my new category, ‘Websites’. I will scroll down and click ‘_blank’ so the link will open in a new window or tab, then click ‘Add Link’. Add a link to your new category. Add links to your blogroll for all your friends, and add categories to keep your links sorted out.

Click your blog title in the top left-hand corner of the page and visit it again.

I just noticed that my post is in the category ‘Uncategorized’. I’m going to fix that by adding a category for it. In the Posts menu, click Categories. My new category will be Site News. The slug will be site-news, and I will add a description.

Now I am going to go edit that post again. Click Posts, then Edit. In the right-hand sidebar you see Categories. Uncategorized is checked. I am going to uncheck that and check Site News. Change or add a category to your post, then click Update.

Now it’s time to do something with the appearance. Under Appearance, click Widgets. Your widget page will have lots of modules you can put in your widget areas, which depend on which theme you are using. The default theme for Dreamhost does not have Links in the primary widget area, so I’m going to add it. You can add any number of widgets and move them from widget area to widget area and back, just to see what happens.

Okay, now click Themes. Dreamhost provides you with eight pages of themes, but there are also an unlimited number out there, many for free. Scroll through, click preview to see what they will look like. If you activate a theme, you can easily change it back.

We’ve done enough damage today. One more thing. Go back to your Dreamhost panel one-click page. Pick the bottom option, Upgrade or remove previously installed software – Advanced mode. Scroll down to the bottom and click the Automatically upgrade all one-clicks forever option.

Whoa. More work to do tomorrow.

FTP is File Transfer Protocol. Using FTP you can transfer files from your computer to your hosting or vice versa.

There are other transfer protocols. One which you use all the time is HTTP or Hyper Text Transfer Protocol, in which the browser interprets HTML files to produce pages with content and links as we surf.

I personally prefer FireFTP, a Firefox plugin. But it will be easier for me to demonstrate how to use Filezilla, and once you learn one, it will be easier to learn others.

Filezilla is free. It is not hard to install or use. Downloaded the one that has the (recommended) after it if you have a Windows computer. If it comes up, you want the client, not the server.

To install it using Firefox, click Tools=>Downloads if the download window is not open. In the list in the download window, right click the one you want to install and select Open from the dropdown menu. The installation process is simple. Follow the directions on the Filezilla site.

Click the Filezilla icon on your desktop to open the application.

At the top of the page you will see something like this. Click it to enlarge.

In “host” type in your ftp host. For dreamhost it will be your domain name with no ‘http://’ or ‘www’. Other hosts may require something somewhat different. For this tutorial I have created a subdomain I will use that has the name examples.help4flirts.com, and that is what I will type in to log in. Then type your username which you were assigned or created yourself, and your password. Leave the port blank. Click ‘Quickconnect’ and you should be logged in.

Filezilla will remember your FTP login information for you, but you should also store it in a safe place. However, if you lose your FTP login you can always give yourself a new password in your user panel. But it will be rather awkward if you lose your username, too, expecially if it is the same as your panel login and you need to contact customer service for help in logging in. So write it all down someplace.

Here’s how an FTP client works. There are windows on the left and on the right. On the left side is your computer, which is your local machine. On the right side is your server, which is your remote machine. You can download a file from your host onto your computer, or you can upload one from your computer to the web. Downloading or uploading does not remove the file from the machine it is coming from. But if you download or upload a file with the same name, it will overwrite. So you need to be careful you are uploading or downloading into the right location. It will give you a warning you are about to overwrite a file, but if you carelessly click “OK”, you can end up losing your work.

What you are looking at here is your entire account, not just your domain. Note that there is nothing in the “Remote” window but a slash. When you click the ‘+’ sign it will open…

What you see above and below will be the same. The folders you are looking at are your log folder, your mail folder, your domain, and some other stuff you may never need to think about. Files only show in the bottom window.

Now click the domain, which is ‘examples.help4flirts.com’. There are 3 files in this folder, favicon.gif and favicon.ico, which are both a type of image, and quickstart.html. Look at the ‘Remote’ window at the top now. It is no longer blank. It now says ‘/examples.help4flirts.com’. That is the domain name. To visit it, it has to start with ‘http://’. To make it start with that, we add ‘http:/’ + ‘/examples.help4flirts.com’ and get ‘http://examples.help4flirts.com‘. Click the link and you will see what the homepage currently looks like.

Scroll up and down in the top left-hand frame until you find My Documents. Right click, select Create Directory. Name it Web Folders. Click it.

In the bottom left-hand frame, right click and again select Create Directory. Name it your domain name.

Why did I do this? Because you may have two domains next year, or four. Now you have a folder to keep them in. You should always build your file structure the same on your home machine as it is on your host.

Now open Notepad. Start => All Programs => Accessories => Notepad. Click File => Save As. Navigate to the new Web Folders directory, then into it to the folder named after your domain.

Name the file ‘index.html’ (no quotes). Save as type ‘All Files’. Leave the bottom one alone and save.

Now find your domain folder in the ‘Web Folders’ directory in Filezilla in the top left frame. Click to open the contents below. (If it is already open, click the refresh button in the Filezilla toolbar to make your file appear below.)

Right-click the ‘index.html’ file and select ‘Upload’ from the menu. It will upload to your server.

Now visit your domain on the web. You will find you now have a blank page instead of a placeholder page.

Now, click to highlight the two favicon files and the quickstart.html file in the lower right frame while holding down your CTRL key (lower left or right key on your keyboard). With all three highlighted, click to drag them into the bottom left-hand frame. They will download.

So you can either select download (or upload) from the right-click menu, or you can just drag the files across.

Next: Installing WordPress on your site!

What you could do now is start uploading files. You could just create an images folder, upload images to it, and start linking. But before you get into that, I want you to think about one thing: whether you want a WordPress blog on your site or not.

It is super-easy to create a WordPress blog on a new domain using the one-click installer that comes with your Dreamhost account. It’s a lot harder to do once you’ve started to create folders and put files in them.

You can always add a blog later in a subdirectory, as in http://mydomain.com/blog. But if you want your site to be a WordPress site, as in http://mydomain.com displaying a blog, the best time to do it is right at the beginning.

A WordPress blog may seem hard to understand. The idea of managing a WordPress site may seem overwhelming. But it really is something you can learn to do for yourself so you won’t have to end up paying someone out of desperation to set you up.

So if you want to your site to be a WordPress site, I’ll show you how to do it now. If you want to just create an images or videos dirctory and start using it, with or without a homepage, I’ll show you that, too.

But before you can do either, you will need to install an FTP client on your computer.

Yesterday I received an email from a girl who wants to, needs to host her own videos on her own domain, but doesn’t know how to get started. This post should give the info girls need to get started hosting their own photos, videos, and other files on their own domains.

I strongly recommend that you read this entire article before following any of the instructions in it.

Often the question comes up, “Where can I upload photos or videos for free?” While there are a few adult photohosts, the free ones come with strings attached. Photohostess does not permit you to upload any photos that do not comply with Niteflirt’s display requirements, which include no nipples, asscrack, genitals, or sex acts, either real or implied. But Niteflirt also has a lot of other inscrutable requirements, which I am not going to get into here, and you may have a perfectly legitimate use for a photo that Niteflirt would not permit you to use on their site.

Non-adult photo hosts have a nasty tendency to delete your account and photos. They all have a requirement that means no porn is acceptable. A couple of years ago, Photobucket, after bazillions of warnings to girls, finally put in a block that prevents photos hosted there from displaying on Niteflirt, and instantly thousands of photos and other images were replaced by an ugly black button that said “Banned by Photobucket”.

Free video hosts don’t permit adult, or don’t permit privacy. You can’t sell a video that’s available for free to the public. Customers would get pissed. Adult video hosts that permit password-protection charge a fair amount of money for their services.

One issue with videos is that they can take up a lot of space on the server. None of these companies are doing any of this out of the goodness of their hearts. Businesses like Youtube are doing it to make money by using your content to attract visitors. As running adult websites is a commercial business, businesses that provide hosting are going to provide you with services in exchange for cash or the use of your content to attract traffic of their own.

Another video issue is that you may want to put a videoclip on your listing. Youtube and other videohosts are considered outside businesses, so they will get any listing you use videos hosted on their site suspended, and it will get all your listings suspended if you put it on your homepage.

Yet another issue with using free file hosts (or even paid ones) is that the host may change their tos without notice, and then, where are you? You could lose all your photos and videos, just like that.

You can, however, host your own on a domain for less than the cost of paying for adult file hosting. I have been recommending that girls do this for ages. I am going to walk through the process here of registering a domain, getting hosting, and setting up your hosting. Because I register with godaddy and host with Dreamhost, I was going to use examples and illustrations for them. However, this morning I registered a domain with Namecheap, so I am not even going to show you how to do it with godaddy, Namecheap is so much simpler. I am going to provide you with a Dreamhost discount code, so if you decide to host with them, you will save some money getting started. While you can, of course, host anywhere you like, there are some things you ought to watch out for, and I will try to point some of these things out.

Let’s get started!

What is a domain?

This is a domain: http://help4flirts.com
So is this: http://www.niteflirt.com
As is this: http://dreamhost.com
And this: http://thedomainipicked.com

You have to own your domain, and to do that, you will have to buy one. Then, you have to host it on the web for people to see what you put there. That’s what hosts do.

Then, you need to upload your files, then use the URL to link to them as you need to.

Buying your domain

The thing to do is come up with a list of possible names you might like, then type them into the location bar at the top of the page.

If you get an error page, it is not unlikely that the domain is available. Make a list of possible choices in case your first choice or two are not available. Now go to namecheap or some other registrar and start an account. They will have a place to search on your chosen domain name. Enter it. If the name is available, you want to buy it right away. If unavailable, go to the next one on your shopping list.

Buy the domain, pay for it, and it’s yours.

(If you are registering your domain with some other company, you would want to make sure you purchased privacy, to keep your name and address off the web. But that is standard when you buy a new domain with Namecheap. Also you would want to make sure you don’t buy any services you don’t need, which some webhosts (thinking of godaddy here) will try to sell you.)

There are a number of pages you will click through during the registration process. When you come to this one you will need to edit it to add your nameservers at your host.

If you are purchasing your hosting from Dreamhost, there is a very good chance that these will be your nameservers, so type them in now just as I have. You can always change them later if you need to.

If you are hosting with a company other than Dreamhost, you will have some more steps to do after getting your hosting. But if you are hosting with Dreamhost, you are pretty much done with registration. Just click through, finish up, pay, and go.

Getting hosting

I know that a lot of people are hesitant to buy hosting, at least in part because there are so many options. It can be overwhelming. They feel that if only someone would simplify things for them and provide an automated user interface designed for someone who is very uncomfortable with the process, they would be able to get started.

There certainly are hosting companies that do that, catering to newbies. But there are huge drawbacks in going with that sort of setup. It usually costs you more in the long run. They may start you with one domain and charge extra for each additional one. You are often stuck with a host that provides you with a lot fewer features, including some features you may need before you realize it. The site builders make sites that look amateurish and encourage people to do things to their pages that detract from the appeal of their pages. If you do decide to move to a different host, the fact that you used their sitebuilder may mean that you can’t move your site with you. You have to start again. So what they have done is not just to cater to newbies, but to take advantage of their unfamiliarity and discomfort to sell them an inferior product at an inflated price.

Even worse, learning to use their sitebuilder makes it harder to learn how to do real HTML or even use a real visual HTML editor. Each sitebuilder works differently, and you will waste more time trying to figure it out, and probably still things will happen that you don’t understand.

But regardless, I’m just going to show you what you need to know here. You can ignore all the options you don’t understand that you see in your user panel.

To buy hosting from Dreamhost, go to the Dreamhost website. Register and start an account. You will have to enter your domain name. Enter the discount code HELP4FLIRTS to save yourself some money.

You will have to log into your panel. There should be a link there somewhere, or you can click here to login to your panel.

In the tan box on the upper left-hand corner of the page, click “Manage Domains”. On the domain management page, look for the link to “Add New Domain/Sub-Domain”. Click that link.

Fill in the domain to be hosted, leaving off the ‘http://’ and ‘www’.

Now you need to choose whether you want your domain to appear with a ‘www’. or not. Just decide which you want and plan to stick with it.

You may have to create a username, or one may be created for you. Just follow directions. Don’t create a new user if you are not forced to by the system.

For the web directory, just type in the naked domain.

Scroll down to the Captcha box, skipping all the Google stuff, enter the letters or words that are intended to prove you are human, then click Fully host this domain.

A page will come up with the nameservers you would need to enter into your registration account to send the domain to Dreamhost. Double check to make sure they are the same as the ones I told you to type in.

Within a few minutes your domain may appear online, or it may take a few hours.

Of course what you will see when it does come up is a page telling you that the owner hasn’t uploaded a homepage for some reason. Like this:

We will deal with that in the next lesson.

Did you register your domain with someone other than Namecheap or buy your hosting with someone other than Dreamhost? Now you will need to get your domain servers from your host, then go back to your registrar to enter them. Every site is different, so I really can’t help you with them. If you can’t figure it out, call or email tech support. There may even be video tutorials on the sites to help you get started.

The Unicode standard character list provides a great many letters and characters in languages we are both familiar with and unfamiliar with. It also provides a great many symbols for math, science, and other more obscure functions.

When you see a weird character being used by someone—particularly in their listing title—that’s usually where it came from. But for the most part, lists you find are of a few characters somebody thought was interesting before they got bored and gave up.

I have made a list here of the 60,000 possible Unicode characters. If you’re looking for a character to use in your HTML to decorate your page, you may very well find something there.

Note: the page is large and may load slowly if you have a slow connection. Also, if you make a listing title with a lot of characters in it, make sure there are spaces. If you break the front page or a category index page because your set it up without spaces, your listing can be suspended.

Click here.

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Between the <head> and the </head> tags of your page code, there are several tags you need to understand to make them work for you.

First there are two <meta> tags.

The meta keywords tag looks like this:

<meta name=”keywords” content=”keyword 1, keyword 2, …”>

You would select a few of the most important keywords for your page to put here. When I say “a few”, I really mean just a few. Putting dozens or hundreds of “keywords” that you don’t even use on your page just means that the whole thing will be at best ignored. At worst, you can be punished for trying to cheat by putting keywords in there that are clearly not a part of your site.

In fact, at this time it appears that putting keywords in the meta keywords tag is probably not going to help your site. So many people cheated on it that Google no longer will count it for you.

Then there is the meta description tag. It’s pretty self-explanatory.

<meta name=”description” content=”This is the description of my site I want to appear in a Google search.”>

Finally, there is the page title.

<title>Your page title text goes here</title>

Your page title shows at the very top of the browser window in the blue bar. It also displays as the text for your link, if your page is indexed on Google.

The page title for this page is “SEO – In your document head | Help4flirts – Mozilla Firefox” if you are viewing this post as a single post, and “HTML, design, and graphics tutorials for flirts, PSO’s, and the adult entertainment industry – Mozilla Firefox” if you are viewing it in the main index view.

You really want your page to have a title that reflects what the page is about. Names like Untitled Document (18,000,000 pages) and Page title (598,000,000 pages), or Home (4,520,000,000 pages), well let’s just say they aren’t going to set you apart from your competitors, or anyone else for that matter.

Using somebody else’s site name as the page title on your site entry page? Skeezy.

Here’s the deal with WordPress plugins: there are a lot of plugins, and they are not all equally good. Some of them don’t do what you need. More plugins are not better. Sometimes having multiple plugins means that none of them work, or there may be unpredictable results.

When deciding to get a plugin, search on what you need to see what is available. Look at several to see which one seems to fit your needs the best before deciding to download. Read how to use it on the plugin site. After you install and activate it, look for a settings or configuration panel to see if you need to configure it. Then check to see if it is doing what you needed it to do. If you don’t like the plugin, you can deactivate it and try a different one.

Seo, keywords, description, etc.

The most effective SEO comes from having different keywords and description for each post, as well as a unique description and keywords for your homepage. If you have the exact same description and keywords for every page, you won’t get any more mojo from google than if you had none at all.

By the way, your pages will still get indexed if you don’t have these, but it is probably more efficient to have them.

robots.txt file

A robots.txt file tells bots what to index and what not to index. Without a robots.txt file, the bots will generally just index everything. You can exclude certain bots if you know you don’t want them on your site. You can also exclude certain pages from being indexed and links from being followed. If you really have no preferences, the following code will permit all bots and spiders to index your site:

User-agent: *
Disallow:

That’s it.

This script is a modification of Mistress V’s script so many people used to use before the transition. You will need hosting to use it. (To save $50 on a year’s hosting with Dreamhost, use the discount code CALLBUTTONDEAL.)

Included is a starter set of callbutton images:
    

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I have used Xara products for years. I upgraded from Xara Xtreme to the Pro version years ago, so I wasn’t aware how nice and inexpensive the regular version is. With the latest release, the product formerly called ‘Xtreme’ is now called ‘Photo and Graphics Editor’.

If you’re shopping for an image editor, this is very easy to use for cropping, brightening, etc. The program also has lots of advanced features if you’re into illustration.

The Pro model, now known as ‘Designer Pro’, also is a fully-functional web design program, with lots of drag-and-drop and instant update features.

The stand-alone design product Web Designer, is also available without the image editor.

The unfortunate fact is that recorded listings are still unavailable on Niteflirt, and there are customers who were able to listen who did not feel comfortable downloading them to their computer, where someone else in the household might find them.

There are options. Probably the easiest one is to download them directly onto a USB flash drive or a memory card, then pull them from the computer when not using them. Any memory card can fit in its case in a wallet, and some USB flash drives are small enough to do this with, too.

However, these can still be password-protected in case they are lost or just found by the wrong person.

Using file compression and its accompanying password capability to protect a folder or file:

This is an old post. The same may or not apply to later versions. Article
USB Drive Encryption
Cryptainer LE
Folder Password Expert
StorageCrypt

Googling on “password-protect USB flash drive” and other similar phrases will turn up lots of other options.